Married, Scarred or Too Gay

You've seen them around. You see them EVERYWHERE. To put a queer twist on an old observation: the good men are either married or TOO GAY. Recently, I attended a birthday party for a friend. Great food, great drink, great smoke, great blend of people of both genders. There were a few cute guys that I had met at the party and some that I've known for years. Of the guys that I had met for the first time at that party, a couple of them were indeed couples, albeit incognito. They didn't hang out together, they didn't sleep together (yeah, it was an impromptu all night party- I was there for 26 hours), for intents and purposes the foursome were seemingly unattached. Until conversation had swayed into the area of being single versus being coupled. It was then that it dawned on me that I was, for the most part, amidst men whom were "off-the-market". I generally don't go to parties to pick-up on guys. It's just not my style. Although, I do network amongst my small number of close friends. It would seem that if Mr. Thang is partnered then he'd more than likely has or at least knows of some guys whom are single and emotionally available. That's the key. I've met guys that have been of the walking wet dream variety. Guys that although, they look all manly and possess masculine traits, aren't properly equipped to relate to other men on an emotional level. I have a masculine demeanor. I don't speak with a lilt, I don't walk with swish of the hips, I don't have limpy wrists. I'm not afraid of getting myself dirty- I'm talking filth that usually requires solvents to remove the grime. I like to work on mechanical things, car engines and the like. You know, "guy stuff". And I'm attracted to guys like myself. Guys whom are guys. It's been my experience that there are those guys whom, I'm attracted to, are either partnered/married or emotionally crippled or marred for life. You've encountered them- The guys that have had a couple or a string of rocky relationships that ended badly and unfortunately the guy(s) didn't learn from those experiences and therefore are now marred and scarred for life or a good chunk of it anyway. The adage of twice bitten thrice shy pretty much sums it up. It's a shame and a tragedy. Then there are the "too gay" crowd. The "Heeeeey Grrrl" kinda of guys. The "no-she-did-int" clique. Where all pronouns are feminine despite the fact that the person is genetically male. I call them "Swishy Fags". Some call them "Queenie". Which is not to be confused with the "Uppity Queers" which is a whole other topic for a later blog. I know many guys whom are like that, some are friends, some are close acquaintance's. But, would I knowingly become partnered with a guy like that? Let me just say that I wouldn't actively manhunt for a swishy fag as a potential partner. I realistically can't rule-out anyone, because stranger things have been known to happen. Lastly, to all the emotionally scarred guys out there, try to learn from the mis-steps of the past and take the emotional risk to seek another guy, because we're not all bad, mean and manipulative- Many of us are just drawn this way.

So Sayeth Das Behr